Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! It’s so fun celebrating love and friendship!
But it can also be a really difficult day for people who:
- are single for the first time in a long time
- have always been single
- are married and separated
- are divorced
- are widowed
- are married or in a relationship but are feeling lonely
Those are a lot of different circumstances, but they all boil down to one thing: feeling alone.
A different perspective
I’m here to challenge you to have a different perspective this Valentine’s Day. To do that, I want to share with you a little bit about what we went through.
I’ll have to save our whole story for another post, because it’s super long! But here’s a little bit of it, just to get my point across.
My husband and I got married super young. I was almost 19, and he was 21. We thought we were experts on marriage and love (meaning we were super prideful and thought we didn’t need help with anything), because haven’t those Hollywood love movies trained us so well?!
Fast forward two years. My hubby and I are separated. I’m 21 years old and living alone in the house my husband and I bought together. The house we were supposed to start a family in.
I should’ve felt super alone. But you know what? I didn’t. It was only when I was “alone” that I started to learn what love really was. You see, this entire time, even though I said I was a Christian and said that I loved God, I had actually been investing all of my thoughts, energy and affection into one human being: my husband.
When he was gone, and I felt like I had nothing left, I turned back to God and started to get to know Him better. Instead of only thinking about my husband and how he could fulfill me and make me feel loved, I started to discover this amazing and incredible love that God had (and has) for me. A love that is unconditional. A love that wouldn’t waver. I started to embrace the fact that there was nothing I could do that would make Him leave me. That He found me beautiful and lovely even though He knew every single awful hidden thought and motive I’ve ever had.
And I learned that His love was the only one that would truly fulfill me. That wouldn’t leave me thirsting for more. All I had to do was keep going back to Him.
And can I tell you something? I had never felt more content and full of joy and peace in my entire life than I did during that time. The time when everyone else said that I should’ve been depressed and sad and looking for another man.
You want to know some of the things people said to me?
- “You’re so young!”
- “You have your whole life ahead of you!”
- “There are plenty of really good guys out there.”
- “You could marry someone who would treat you right.”
And the worst part? We weren’t even divorced!
Usually, the world tells us that if we’re “single” or “alone” it is something wrong that needs to be fixed.
I’m here to tell you that being single is a gift and that you need to embrace it.
Don’t hear the wrong message. God did an amazing work in my husband and I, and in our marriage. And I love my husband and am so thankful for our relationship.
But what I’m saying is that you can look at your time of being single as a beneficial time in your life. You can learn new things and help others in ways that you can’t when you’re in a relationship. For once, contrary to what the culture tells you, be thankful that you’re single. Celebrate where you are in your life right now.
A Valentine’s Message for You
Dear friend, even if you feel very alone this Valentine’s Day, you are not.
Whether you believe in Him or not, and whether you know Him or not, I’m here to tell you that there is a God who loves you with a love that is powerful, limitless and never-ending. A love that goes against all obstacles. A love that is big enough to cover all your flaws. This same God promises:
I will never leave you or forsake you.
If you don’t know this God that I’m talking about, and would like to, please contact me! I would love to share more about Him with you!
And lastly, I hope that you can truly celebrate this day! Celebrate your life! Celebrate all the people in your life who love you and care about you. And if you say you don’t have anyone, then celebrate with your cat and send me a message!
If this was meaningful to you, it would mean so much to me if you could share it!
Much love to you all! <3
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